Well I’m not going to lie to you, I’ll tell it like it is. When you take the journey to becoming a mother you can lose a little bit of your identity along the way. You gain way more than you lose though don’t get me wrong, but there are moments along the way when you wonder where you lost your identity.
This can apply to anything really; hobbies, diet, career, social life, and fashion. When you’re a new mom you (I generalize because this is not everyone, some people always look fabulous, even when they have a small infant baby) sometimes don’t shower, you wear a lot of “workout” clothing, you don’t have tons of time for makeup and hair (though if your baby is sleeping often you may have time but just don’t give a damn because you’re too tired to care). So by the time you get into a routine with your baby and perhaps back to your pre-baby weight, you realize that your fashion mojo is already long gone. What can you do? Are you doomed to wear nothing but oversized shirts and black leggings forever? Of course not, see my tips below for re-defining your style after baby(ies).
1. Don’t automatically run out and buy a whole new wardrobe. If you have clothes that no longer fit post-partum don’t ditch them just yet, it can take awhile to get back to where you were, particularly if you’re breastfeeding (you may be even smaller than you were pre-pregnancy) this should normalize eventually but keep in mind it differs for every woman. I made the mistake of buying new clothing in the first year and some was to big after a few months of breastfeeding then some was way too small once I had gone back to my normal weight. Don’t waste your money if you can avoid it, instead you may want to put aside the stuff that doesn’t fit for up to a year, then if they still don’t fit go ahead and sell or donate, then enjoy shoppping for your new curves!
2. Add new accessories to comfortable basics. It’s not realistic to get all dressed up in a fashion forward outfit to play with your kids or to go to a play date (babies and kids are messy…. I am almost certainly rocking a stain e’ry day) but that doesn’t mean you can’t still look nice while being comfortable. No one wants to wear the mom uniform but jeans or leggings and a nice shirt or sweater is an easy, comfortable outfit that can be enhanced using accessories. Add a new scarf, sunglasses, shoes or boots, a bag and jewellery (if you don’t mind that it may get broken or slobbered on) to basic outfits to make them appear more on trend and put together.
3. If you’ve been out of the style game for awhile and are feeling stuck, look to the style setters for inspiration; this can be looking through street style photos from bloggers, celebrities or straight from the runway but don’t feel like you have to copy their look exactly (mega expensive) or follow every trend there is but rather use them as a jumping off point to creating your own unique style. Take risks with your fashion, put things together that you wouldn’t normally, follow your instincts.
4. At then end of the day they are just clothes and time spent with your family is usually a mothers primary focus but it’s more about how you feel as a person. If you are happy in sweats and a ponytail then that’s great, if you feel good about having full makeup and wearing a dress and heels (working mamas holla!) then by all means go for it.
My fashion journey for the last three years has been like an evolution, I have gained confidence that I never had before and although my body has changed in ways that I may not be thrilled with I have learned to love it. I hope you can find an even better sense of style in motherhood!