Fashion After Baby
Does this even exist? I have to admit that as someone who considers herself fairly fashionable, I wondered if I would ever regain my pre-baby sartorial skills. During my pregnancy I bought as little maternity clothes as I could get away with, I was also lucky enough to get some hand-me-downs and most of my pre-baby tops still fit until the last month, where I lived in a few stretchy dresses. So throughout that time I still felt fashionable, fast forward to the post-partum wardrobe of someone who's had a c-section and you'll probably hear this phrase, "I have nothing to wear" or "Nothing fits me". What are you supposed to wear during that period when you still have a belly (smaller but still very much there) but your maternity pants are too big, and yet even though you have lost some weight you are nowhere near close to fitting into your skinny genes, plus everything hurts your incision.
I often look to celebrities when it comes to style (who doesn't?) and there are plenty of famous moms out there that have a baby and are still fashionable; Victoria Beckham, Kate Beckinsale and Nicole Ritchie come to mind. Now I know that I shouldn't compare myself to these women because they have jobs that require them to be fashionable, they are constantly in the spotlight (hello tabloids and paparazzi!) and they have the stylists and money that I will never have access to in my lifetime (but my fingers are still crossed). So why put myself through the torture of trying to measure up? Well for one thing, fashion has always been important to me, for as long as I can remember I have loved shopping and clothes and more recently (say the past six years) I have been paying alot more attention to the runways and fashion magazines. So I figure that just because I'm a mom now, doesn't mean I should give up my cute Marc Jacobs purse for a bottomless mom sack, or trade in my skinny jeans for khaki chinos. The problem is; I do feel that I have outgrown (figuratively speaking) the majority of my pre-baby wardrobe, my closet is filled with years of quantity over quality shopping buys and now I feel like I've reached a new milestone in my life not unlike graduating college or getting married, I feel like my wardrobe needs a bit of an overhaul.
Finding an appropriate style after having a baby doesn't have to be frumpy but I have realized that shorty shorts and any tops that show too much skin are not projecting the right image for me at this point in my life (not that I wore anything too crazy). There are certain stores like Garage and American Eagle that I will leave for the younger generation in favour of some higher end stores that can offer me the quality I have been craving all these years. This will mean less is more, I may only be able to shop for myself once or twice a year or spread the shopping trips out every few months but the main thing will be; finding quality pieces that will stay in my wardrobe for a long time while staying within a tight clothing budget.
If there were three items I would say I couldn't live without in my closet I would say; blazers, ballet flats, and skinny pants. With those as my staples everything else is just the icing on the cake, so I guess I know where most of my clothing budget will be going!
Next time: Meeting Other Moms (When Your Friends Don't Have Babies)